Friday, February 8, 2008

Thought-Provoking Questions

I recently found a list of questions on the Girl Talk blog. Designed to encourage accountability and Christian fellowship among women, I thought they were great also for self-reflection. It gives me something to work towards, as I think about how I would answer some of the questions (truthfully, some of them I would answer I don't know. So maybe I should be able to answer.

The questions:

Describe your current practice of the spiritual disciplines.
  • Well, I'm working to get a better habit of prayer. I've fallen back into just having mostly on-the-run prayers as I think of them - as I'm going about my day I shoot up quick requests, praises, intercessions etc., but I don't have much of a dedicated prayer time. 
  • Quiet time & devotional reading I have every morning (and I do have brief prayer time then, but it's mixed in with the other stuff as well). I also read the day's devotional from the One Year NIV Devotional New Testament every evening just before bed. I love this as an evening devotional - it's primarily scripture, and the amount is just right at that time of day. 
  • I'm, well, I guess I'd call it talking myself into starting to fast. I have some hangups with it relating to my childhood/adolescence but I know it would be good for my spiritual growth. 
  • At the moment I can't think of any other spiritual disciplines. I'm sure I will as soon as I post this though. 

What is a passage of Scripture you have been meditating on recently?
I've got my weekly memory verses, but I can't say that I really meditate on any Scripture. I'm not actually sure what to do to meditate on scripture; I know that sounds silly, but there you have it. I've tried before but it ended up being me just reading the same verse or passage again and again, trying to think about it alone, but finding my mind wandering to anything else.

What fruit of the Spirit are you cultivating?
You know, I've never thought to specifically cultivate a fruit of the Spirit. But I do like that idea. The personal quality I had wanted to work on this year is discipline, and the way I mean it seems like I could call it self-control, so I would say that. I just never thought about it being a fruit of the Spirit.

What sin are you seeking to weaken?
Uh, yeah, transparency while blogging, right? I'm not sure what to call it exactly, besides the lack of self-control/no discipline. Specifically how it is manifested in what I eat, how I don't exercise, and my frequent laziness (sorry, no other word for it) when it comes to housework. It's frustrating, because I have very good self-control in some areas (financial for example) but why can't I translate that into other areas?

How can I pray for you?
Besides that I would grow in self-control? That we would either have a healthy child or we would find peace that parenting is not God's will for our lives. And actually, we had always hoped for 3 - 4 children so I am also needing to come to peace with the fact that based on my age, that possibility is growing more and more dim.

Here is an evidence of grace that I observe in your life.
Ok, this one doesn't really apply since this is where the accountability partner is supposed to answer.

How are you seeking to grow in expressing biblical femininity?
I have no idea how to answer this.

Thursday, February 7, 2008

Remodeling Along

The bathroom continues on schedule (apparently; I never heard what the schedule was but they're pleased with the progress). The new vanity is in place, as are the dual medicine cabinets/mirrors. The shower is mostly tiled (still need to do the bench & shelves) and the tub is about 99% done. And by tub I mean the surround above it along the wall. Still to do is the wall between the tub and shower. And then I guess everything gets grouted, unless something else has to be done to it first. As you can tell, I'm not very aware of the specific details. But it looks great!

I think I've figured out part of what is giving me such difficulty with the process. I'm not the best housekeeper unfortunately, but our bedroom is virtually always in pristine condition. And about the only exceptions to that are due to illness or getting ready to travel or just returning from travel. And when traveling, it gets put back into shape within a day. And I didn't realize how much I counted on having something that truly is a haven. Even if my kitchen needs work, or my living room looks very lived in, I could go to the bedroom and see something peaceful and uncluttered. Except for now, when it is dusty and cluttered and furniture is pushed every which way, and dusty and we barely have a path to get to the bed, and did I mention it's dusty?

My haven is gone. And apparently I counted on it more than I realized.

So I'm counting down until the bedroom can be put to rights, and I'm trying to figure out if I can take any time off from work to devote to cleaning. I'm actually really looking forward to CLEANING. That may be a first.

I'm not sure why it makes a difference to my mental well-being to know what's bothering me, but it does, and I'm feeling significantly better than I was Monday.

Although I do know the real reason I'm feeling so much better than I was Monday. Prayer works.

Wednesday, February 6, 2008

Lent

I'm new to even thinking about Lent, but I am getting more and more interested in the rhythm of the church calendar as followed by Lutherans, Episcopalians, Anglicans, and of course, Catholics. Today is Ash Wednesday, the start of Lent, and what I've decided to give up is what has become my unrestrained computer time. I don't want to go to no computer time at all; it's the primary way I stay in touch with friends and family, and I don't think it's a bad thing. I do think that I will greatly benefit from cutting it down. I'm giving myself a set amount of time for all computer work (with the exception of taxes & financial stuff; taxes will take longer than an hour and if I get into it I don't want to make myself stop those. But that's not exactly a big temptation for me like blog reading, writing, email, and general surfing can be. That's what I'm limiting).

But it's not just about taking away time, it's what I'm going to do with the time I will have. I have a Bible Study I want to work through, and that Holy Spirit correspondence course to finish. And I have a lot of work to do to put my house back in shape once the remodeling finishes. And, I want to firmly establish a habit of going to bed on time, following scripture reading and prayer.

That seems like a good way to spend 40 days.

Tuesday, February 5, 2008

Thankful Tuesday

  • The bathroom remodel is moving along. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, and it is.....dusty. Very very dusty. I am going to have to do so much cleaning when this is done. But the vanity and counter top are in and they look great, the floor is tiled (not yet grouted) and it looks great. The downstairs bath has a new toilet, countertop, vanity, and fixtures and they look great. It's actually closest to being done; it only needs to be painted and have the mirror hung and light fixture swapped out. 

  • We're actually right on budget for the remodel work which is amazing to me, especially when I picked out a pricier floor tile than had been budgeted for. I've made up for it with some of my other choices though and it wasn't that much more. This is a very good thing because although we're doing a lot of work, we certainly don't have an endless amount of money and we'd budgeted pretty carefully to know what we could do. 

  • So far I have managed to avoid the plague that has struck down everyone else in this house for at least a couple of days. And I'm telling myself that the headache I've had for several days is due to the construction noise and excessive amounts of dust in our house, certainly not a sign that I might also soon succumb to the flu that everyone else had. 

Monday, February 4, 2008

Making Your Home a Haven Challenge

It's Monday, so that means it's once again Crytstal's Making Your Home a Haven day. Today is especially for beginners too. I'm certainly feeling like a beginner today.

1) Refresh Your Spirit
Take five minutes, brew a cup of tea or coffee, and sit down and be still before the Lord. Pray, read a Psalm, thank the Lord for His goodness and blessing in your life.

Having a home that is a haven starts with an inner peace in our own hearts, a quiet resting in the Lord. You can have a beautifully decorated home with everything neat and orderly, but if you are frazzled and frustrated, your home will not be a peaceful place. After all, the saying is so true, "If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."


Done. This really helped today - it's been a stressful week with the houseguests and some additional issues with them I don't feel comfortable blogging about. Some hot chocolate and reading 1 Peter helped calm me.  If anyone is reading this, I could really use some prayers that they will finish soon and, most importantly, that they can all go home once they do.  

2) Take Time To Plan
Today's planning project is centered on a morning routine. Write down five things you want to do in the same order every morning. Keep it simple and only stick to five things. If five things seem overwhelming, start with three. Starting somewhere is better than not starting at all!

My morning routine was done before leaving for work, except for the bathroom. And once again, it's due to the remodeling work/houseguests - the master bath is still ripped out, and so there is nothing to clean. The guest bath is full of the guys' stuff and I'm near to deciding to quit trying to clean it until they leave. Finally, our downstairs half bath is also ripped out, and so once again there is nothing to clean. That's the positive way of looking at it anyway. ;) I *think* the half bath should be back tomorrow so I can clean it. It'll have a brand new toilet sink and mirror so that should be easier to keep clean than it was.

To review, my morning routine:
  • Dressed & ready for the day
  • Tidy a bathroom
  • Pray
  • Go over memory verse
  • 5 minute room rescue
  • Empty the dishwasher
  • Eat breakfast & take pills
  • Read daily devotionals
  • Read Bible passage(s)
I've been surprised in a way to see how routine my morning routine has become - I don't even have to look at the list anymore because I just go about what I've trained myself to do and it all gets done or else I very clearly notice that I'm missing something (typically the bathroom or room rescue is what gets cut). Following a routine like this is not something that comes naturally to me, and I think in a way it helps that it's morning and I don't even think about it being an option or not; it's just what I do to get out the door. I'm much better about my morning routine than my afternoon/evening routines; those seem to easily get ignored or shifted when things come up.

3) Do Something!
For those of you who have been following along with this series a bit longer: Today I encourage you to focus on cleaning your bathrooms. We'll be using baking soda and Basic H to scrub them from top to bottom. We'll also be washing the rugs, changing the towels, refilling the hand soap dispensers, and making sure there is plenty of toilet paper and other supplies.

Ok, ok, I can take a hint. I'll work on my guest bath & move their stuff in order to clean it well. In addition to that, I'll continue to follow my afternoon and evening routines. My afternoon routine is slightly different depending on the day of the week. Maybe that makes it harder for me to follow it so diligently like my morning routine? I'll have to think about this.

My routines seem especially out-of-kilter with the houseguests. I know, it seems like I'm blaming them for everything and I don't mean to, but they are changing things quite a bit compared to how I usually work. I'm having to go to the grocery store more often (multiple times a week) because I can't fit enough in the fridge to carry over. I usually shop only once a week and I NEVER make quick runs to the store to pick up something for dinner; I'll refigure what we have if I'm out. Because I'm having to cook so much more and I'm trying to make sure that I don't look stressed about it (otherwise L will just say to get takeout/pizza/etc and I know what that will do to our budget) it is changing how I usually shop and cook.  I had to go to the store again today to get some bread to go along with dinner. I don't have a reliable quick-bread recipe to fix to go along with the spaghetti, and if I don't serve bread with it they'll eat it all and then I'll be out of luck for lunch tomorrow and would have to scramble to figure something out for that.

And then just when I think I've got it planned and organized, something else comes up. When I got home today, wanting to get the baked spaghetti started etc., they've got the water shut off as they do some plumbing work. It's awfully hard to cook pasta with no water. And if they don't get the water back on reasonably soon then we may end up having pizza for dinner because it's getting later and later and we're running out of time for me to cook much of anything.

So anyway, I'm not feeling like my home is very haven-like.  I don't want to clean the bathrooms since I don't have any water and wouldn't be able to wash my hands after finishing.  I can't start dinner without water (again, no hand-washing is a problem even beyond the no water for boiling pasta).  I've tried to do some Bible study/coursework but the noise they're making is keeping me from concentrating (as is another pressing need that means I'm REALLY hoping they get the water back on soon if you know what I mean).  

I'm a little discouraged today.  My house is a disaster area and I don't feel like I can do anything about it until they finish their project.  And even once they do, we may have a very long-term houseguest as the one guy may not be able to return home for a few months.  I'm praying about it but I am struggling.

Menu Plan Monday



Still have our houseguests, so I'm continuing to try to come up with fairly hearty meals that are at least semi-frugal. Without burning us out on beans ever night or something.

Monday - Baked spaghetti. Recipe from Tammy's Recipes. It's goooood.

Tuesday - White bean and chicken chili with cornbread. I base it from the recipe in Desperation Dinners.

Wednesday - Mexican casserole. Or I may use the Mexican lasagna recipe from Desperation Dinners.

Thursday - Pizza. Or leftovers if there are any.

Friday - Shepherd's pie.

Saturday - Minestrone soup with bread of some sort. I'm still looking for a great minestrone soup recipe; I've used several, but none that made me say "this, this is the one I've been wanting."

Anyway, yeah, I realize that it might be better to not have Tuesday's & Wednesday's meals back-to-back, but I need a quick meal for Tuesday and that one is very easy. I might move up pizza night to Wednesday and have the casserole Thursday. Or I might not worry about it at all because I doubt the guys will.

Sunday, February 3, 2008

Memory Verse

1 John 1:9, New International Version

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

Saturday, February 2, 2008

February Goals

  1. Finish correspondence course!
  2. Pick up contacts
  3. Archive Quicken
  4. Backup Quicken & other computer data
  5. Hook up new printer
  6. Goodwill run
  7. Make 2008 files
  8. Return LE items
  9. January financials done
  10. Go over Jan financials & Feb budget with L
  11. Send family vacation pics
  12. Put bathroom back together once it's finished
  13. Put bedroom back together once bathroom is finished
  14. Decorate bathroom - get shower curtain, bath mats & new toothbrush holder.
  15. Burn disc for C with bathroom remodel photos
  16. Menu plan for month
  17. Clean out planner
  18. Tax stuff ready to go?
  19. Inventory bathroom, bedroom & closet
  20. Call or email A

& some specific cleaning tasks:
  1. vacuum bedroom
  2. dust bedroom
  3. clean bathroom floor
  4. clean tub
  5. clean baseboards
  6. wash curtains
  7. clean air filter
  8. clean out nightstands
  9. declutter dressers
  10. declutter closets
  11. dust ceiling fan
  12. dust air vents
  13. clean windows
  14. clean light switches
  15. clean windowsills
  16. wash bedding

That is a lot, isn't it? But the cleaning all desperately needs to be done because thanks to the remodel our bedroom is a dusty mess. My allergies need it to be dealt with asap.

Friday, February 1, 2008

Review of January's Goals

To recap, my goals for January. How did I do? Great on some of them, not-so-great on others.

Successes:
  • FSA paperwork done
  • 2007 financials done & 2008 budget prepared
  • Bathroom plans not only sent, the bathroom remodel is well underway!
  • Filing is, believe it or not, about 98% caught up.  I just need to make 2008 files & I'd be 100% caught up.

Giving myself a pass:
  • The master bedroom/bathroom/closet work.  The bathroom remodel was unexpectedly moved up for when it would be done, so it stopped all other work in that area. It'll be finished this month and then I'll work on those goals, so they just got pushed back to February

Not successful at all:
  • Exercise.  I did it ONCE.  Bad bad bad bad bad.
  • Piano.  I did it more than once, but still not as much as I should.  And it's been really bad lately with the houseguests.
  • Correspondence course I wanted to finish?  Yeah, didn't even touch it.

But hey!  February is a new month and a chance for me to start fresh! 

Thoughts on 31 Days of Praying for My Husband

  • I really found it helpful to have a specific prayer focus for my husband for each day.
  • Unfortunately I found it becoming almost routine some days - I'd create the post, send up a quick prayer and that would be it. The first week or so I felt like I integrated the specifics into my overall prayers.
  • I did really like having the daily prayer posted on my blog however - I've gotten into a bit of a habit of viewing my blog from work as I eat lunch. I never post anything, but I've used the time to review my week's memory verse and the day's prayer. That was very beneficial - I especially like the way it brings my focus back on God and His Word during the work day. 
  • It made me appreciate my husband in specific ways, as I reflected on him and his character.  
  • I found it expanded into helping me think of specific prayers for other people - friends and family.